These 5 critical feelings have been weighing heavy on my mind, my heart, and my soul more so lately, than normal. Why? Because someone I know beautiful 20 year old daughter recently took her life- she a body positivity influencer and plus size model. Beautiful both inside and out!
These 5 critical words are feelings, right? Because ultimately these 5 words reflect how one feels about oneself!
They reflect the relationship one has with oneself!
They also, in my opinion, are a state of mind or should I say a reflection of the well being or lack thereof of ones mindset about themselves.
They show up and reflect in decisions one makes. Even decisions based on feelings that their life is no longer worth living.
I have written blogs about my thoughts on the body positivity movement.
I have written blogs about #selfcare #selflove #selfesteem #selfworth #selfconfidence … in fact those 5 words are the foundation of all my posts, blogs, etc.
Is one not taking care of their health and fitness a lack of self care and self love?
Knowing the poor health and fitness that obesity, overweight/ over-fat, and even skinny fat has on the body, not to mention, all the chronic diseases etc it causes could we not consider behavior and choice of poor eating and sedentary habits a form a self abuse. Does it not fall under the definition of self abuse?
self-a·buse
noun
1. behavior which causes damage or harm to oneself.
Could we agree that when one lacks self care and self love their self esteem, their self confidence, and ultimately their feeling of self worth lowers or disappears entirely?
How is this recognized?
One of the common habits that I have observed that occurs when one loses self esteem, self confidence, and self worth regarding their appearance is their clothes get baggier… they start to hide their bodies in the hopes that no one notices they have gained.
The second observation, and more concerning to me because it is the habit of the younger individuals who lose self esteem, self confidence, and self worth is they actually begin to wear less clothes. The are feeling low and are seeking attention… and when one seeks attention due to lack of self esteem, self worth, and self confidence any attention begins to feel like good attention.
Why is the second trend more concerning to me? Those that tend to wear less clothes are usually young impressionable beings (more likely girls than boys) that are looking outward for acceptance they do not have internally. That need for acceptance seeks attention in an attempt to fill the void present by “lack of self” tends to lead to abusive situations and relationships which further damages their mental well being.
Lack of #selfcare #selflove leads to low #selfesteem #selfworth and #selfconfidence and many seek escape from the pain with self abusive behaviors like overeating, substance abuse, alcohol abuse, etc.
It is why we MUST- its not optional for true quality of day and life- get into practice of #selfcare and #selflove creating habits that build and maintain great health and fitness.
#selfcare #selflove #selfesteem #selfworth and #selfconfidence have something in common.
The word SELF! The #responsibility of #self
We have to stop blaming others and start taking #ownershipofself #selfresponsibility for #selfaccountability of ones health and fitness- ones well being.
… by eliminating all that threatens our well being!
This is tricky because to understand all that threatens our well being we must first remove the threat we are to ourselves.
That’s right, until we remove the threat we are to ourselves and gain clarity that comes with #selfaccountability #selfresponsibility and #ownership of ones choices, habits, and behaviors by practicing a high level of #selfcare and #selflove that then builds a #strong and #healthy #selfesteem #selfworth and #selfconfidence – we tend to place others in a no win situation and will eliminate that which may not really be a threat.
When we have #lowselfesteem #lowselfworth and #lowselfconfidence we tend to see almost everything and everyone as a threat in some way shape or form because we are deflecting responsibility.
Fine line that I will be touching on in my next post.
Fine line because as important as it it that we each take #ownershipofself through #selfresponsibility and #selfaccountability that does not remove the rest of us from the responsibility of being kind, loving, understanding, and supportive of each other.
The saying “sticks and stones may break my bones; but words will never hurt me”
Bullshit! Broken bones heal! Words and actions of hurt, hate, and judgement cut deep into the mind, into the heart, into the soul, and break spirits creating wounds that take a lot of conscious work to heal and leave scars of remembrance.
None of us know what another is going through in their life at the moment, what they have been through in their life.
Someone can appear to have #selfesteem #selfworth and #selfconfidence and have anything but… so words can hurt and words can be that trigger that validates all their other feelings and causes them to take their life.
Remember that- the next time you decide to spew negative energy through unkind words, judgement, or improper or disrespectful actions against another.
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