Great coaches cause you to pause, gain awareness, lose your stories that limit your possibilities, stories that limit your beliefs, to stop assumption of others because it only limits you, and to stop judging and comparing yourself to others for so many reasons and mostly, it too is so self limiting, self destructing, AND because you are not wearing their shoes and walking through their day- you have a glimpse, not the entire reality.
You do not necessarily know what they are doing, how, and why unless you seek first to understand and they are forthcoming with truth.
Your true real competition is you-yourself. This holds true personally and professionally.
I have written blogs about social media and posted so many times on the topic.
Why?
Because, its my belief, that social media has forever changed our lives. Avenues even for relationship troubles…I sold a house or two in my 20 year career due to FB divorces… facebook is out the culprit, it is our use of it. Just saying!
For better or for worse it has replaced magazines, news, entertainment, business marketing, service marketing, workout videos, fashion resources, beauty/ cosmetic industry, and even how we keep in touch with friends, and even how we make friends.
Every form of business and service industry that is direct to customer or client in some way shape or form uses social media to promote and grow their businesses.
It is no longer just social- it is all things that magazines, TV commercials, and mailings use to provide us.
And, just like, scrolling mindlessly from page to page, TV channel to TV channel, social media is an avenue for us to scroll mindlessly liking pics or purposely not liking pics because we think it might reflect badly on us if others see us like something we think they will judge or we simply are judging based on our belief system.
Most, do not even take the time to read post. Like, I already know that most have scrolled past my photo placed with this post.
Here is what so many forget. I may be a blond in motion- literally, see now I can laugh about it:) and I am still one badass BITCH (Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Confident, and Hilarious) Person.
Was one hell of a real estate agent- because I truly cared and put my clients first. One hell of a business/ production Coach because I truly cared and put my client first.
And, my transition into Health and Fitness, well… is no different~ I truly care and put my clients first.
I know the body. I know what it feel likes to not be healthy.
I know what it feels like to be healthy.
I know what it feels like to be injured and heal an injury.
I know what it feel like to have been pregnant, 3 times, gain and lose weight.
I know what hormones do to the body.
I know what it feel like to have lived 5 decades.
I know what it takes to be in your 40’s and 50’s to get, remain, and easily maintain a healthy and fit body.
I know, first hand, how important health and fitness is in managing disease… and disease prevention.
Do I not take hypocrisy head on and often? OMG… social media magnified our hypocrisy, comparison to, and judgement of others significantly.
Magnifying glass on steroids and we do not even see it. We do not see how hypocritical and hypercritical we are.
I have written many blogs and post that go unread… where we give so much attention and put so much judgment and story to the photo we close our mind to whats really important- the read.
If saying eat lose, eat better equals lose fat, lot weight and have better health and fitness worked… we would not have a 70% poor health and fitness epidemic in our country.
I choose to educate. Not entertain. Even though I tend to think I educate in a entertaining and fun way!
I take health and fitness very serious. Poor health and fitness is costing us quality of life, quality of day, and costing us a little something if not a lot something in every aspect of life, even if we are not aware yet.
I take not educating ourselves on viruses very serious; and simply following and trusting others on matters that directly impact our well being without due diligence and understanding of pros and cons very concerning for our freedoms in this country.
I choose to enlighten and I use different ways to do that. In this process, I too have been very enlightened.
Here is reality!
⁃ We, talking mostly woman here and yet we are all guilty, celebrate and give a million likes and kudos to woman and men who put on a bikini and/ or show their skin that are overweight and documenting their weight loss and fat loss.
⁃ We celebrate pregnant woman who boast the cover of magazines showing equal skin as brave and beautiful in their maternal glow.
We blast and distance ourselves from woman and
men, (woman mostly), even friends,
who do the post the same that have already achieved
healthy and fit. Their not showing morality, or their
being vain, or having ego and not just confidence.
⁃ It’s not just bodies. I am seeing judgement of those who have worked their asses off for nice cars, purses, etc get blasted by those who haven’t for showing off etc. And, its sad, because for so many they shy away because of the hate and jealously and judgement because they want to be liked… its important to them.
Are you seeing the trend?
⁃ We are so much more accepting of any industry or service using social media to educate and post other than that which has anything to do with skin/ physique. Unless said skin/ physique keeps us in our current comfort zone. Which for 70% is over fat and/ or obese
⁃ It’s okay if someone shows off someone else’s luxury… just not their own and showing any signs of personal luxury another does not have.
⁃ We celebrate the 70% that post their workout videos, show their sweat, and progress. We blast the 30%.
⁃ Blasting and distancing (meaning lack of likes and comments) is somewhat varying depending on selfies or professional pics- by both sexes. Meaning if someone has the funds for professional photography, video, and editing they are somehow an instagram influencer and professional model. Someone who takes selfie is just ego and vanity… a show off.
⁃ Does not matter if car photos are pro or selfie… if you are showing your car you are showing off. Again, if it is an expensive car that for most earned the right to purchase.
⁃ And, literally, it does not matter if skin is shown or not. Selfies when you are healthy and fit, pretty much regardless of what the post is, makes you vain mostly because most do not read… professional photography makes you a model. Selfies of those on their journey welcomed and celebrated.
So, although, I have had a lot going on which is not all roses and rainbows…. One thing that has not happened or even come close to happening is me losing my mind, who I am, or my brilliance at what I do and why.
I have continued to show my love with likes etc because I get it. I have written blogs about how I too have been guilty of comparison and judgement and what place within me it came from.
I too can find myself hypocritical and hypercritical.
OMG… I have never been about likes in life or online. I am about being real and true… and helping others. That is not always politically correct or popular. I do not care about politically correct… I care about making a difference in this world. I care about the health and fitness in this country. And I care about our freedoms to choose when it comes to our bodies.
In real estate I was about getting the best results for my clients in the least amount of time with the least amount of hassle. That core carried into production/ business coaching. Guess what else! That core has carried forward in health and fitness too.
It is who I am.
I pour my heart, soul, and words into helping others get the best health and fitness results in the least amount of time with the least amount of hassle.
I have answered any judgement with love and words to help enlighten on what I see day in and day out within social on public feeds… closed minds in active judgement… take time. I know this personally!
My hope is you will take the few minutes to read my education post. Not for me… for you… to start or continue one step at a time to achieving health and fitness which I hope we all understand is ongoing and the habit of counterbalance as it has been said true balance does not exist… it is always about counterbalance.
Again, if simple bullet points eat less,eat better and exercise more equals lose weight, lose fat and better health; and, positive memes were effective we would not have a 70% over fat and obese epidemic in this country as there are a ton of those kinds of health feed. In fact, I know that every doctor tells every obese and over fat patient you could stand to lose a few and here is how you do it.
I have had family member after family member who has died to disease especially heart disease who had many physical warnings and doctors repeat those words.
I write to educate from a place of care, love, and true concern because I understand the difference.
We just don’t know how bad we feel until we actually feel great… and that only comes with being in good health and fitness. Just like we do not appreciate pooping until we are constipated.
I leave you with this…
Mental health is part of a healthy and fit lifestyle. If we stand in such harsh judgement, hypocrisy, and hypercritical thinking of others based on a photo it is a reflection of the person who stands in judgement of others, hypocrisy, and hypercritical thinking- not the person being judged. We fool ourselves with thought that we are judging from a place of love or concern. I call bullshit.
Love shows up differently!
One BadAss BITCH 