“Love the questions you are asking! What do you think is the best way to improve self esteem?
Question posed in response to my blog http:onebadassbitch.com/2021/01/26/what’s-wrong-with/
That is a great question! First and foremost thank you for reading my blog and asking the question!
One’s self esteem or lack thereof is personal and the cause behind can be so many different factors. It is why I work with clients individually, even those in group training sessions, on mindset because the only way to create a truly healthy and fit lifestyle breaking the cycle of poor health and fitness and/ or yo yo dieting is through mindset and one’s belief in themselves.
Building self esteem is not a one size fits all depending on the individuals background, trauma, etc. I will answer with some tips that can benefit each person with disclosure that some individuals may need additional work such as Health and Fitness Coaching.
Simple answer is we become selfish to be unselfish!
AKA Self care and love!!
1. Start a daily journal and begin with writing all the things you like, love, and admire about yourself. Start your journal entry each day with the same and watch the list of positives grow.
2. Write all the things you have had others communicate to you that they like, love, and admire about you. Include this in your journal daily and watch this list grow.
3. Remove, disengage, unfollows, unfriend, etc from negative influence and this can include distancing yourself from friends, family, coworkers, etc who are negative and/ or those that like to point out your flaws. Communicate and set boundaries first… if they do not honor the boundaries, one must distance themselves for self love and healing.
4. Proper nutrition- it has both physical and mental healing powers.
5. Strength train a minimum of 4 days a week! It too has both physical and mental healing powers. Our genetics are just the canvas. It is what we do in the gym that determines the reflection we see in the mirror.
6. Daily movement such as a walk, roller blading, cycling, running. Cardio strengthening level 3 to 4 days a week.
7. Include in your daily journal your nutrition successes and activity successes! How the progress makes you feel!
8. Focus on your wins! No one is perfect and no one has a perfect body.
9. Know your only competition is yourself! Write that down each day in your journal. They only reason we fixate on others and compare ourselves is because we are not happy with our own health and fitness… we know we are not living up to our own potential. We are hiding our unhappiness by focusing on what we see as perfection in others- they are not perfect- it is just our perception. Let’s be honest, It is easier to wallow in our current state and blame and/ or have hate feelings towards those who are putting in the time to be their best- or so we think- versus making change so we are our best. We are all imperfectly perfect! Beauty and perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Just as each woman has a different type of man they are attracted to, each man has a different type of woman they are attracted to.
We have to be willing to do the work to break the cycle of hating on ourselves, knocking ourselves, and picking apart ourselves because that is causing us to bring people in our lives that will do the same.
It is a choice!
We can choose to stay and wallow in our current state of low self esteem and unhappiness or choose to take action to break through the bullshit holding us back and run into all of our possibilities awaiting us.
At the end of the day, again it is a choice, of what type of magnet one wants to be in this world! A magnet that attracts negative, narcissistic, gas-lighters that verbally abuse by knocking you down because that is how they feel better about themselves or a magnet to attract positive, loving, caring, supporting, and uplifting people because we love ourselves, our confident in our own skin, and have created a strict boundary to protect our positive mindset!
Be willing to take risk and ignore judgement! There is never a way to please all the people all the time. Start by pleasing you, loving you, and being authentic to who you are.
When you love yourself unconditionally! You will attracts those that will also love you unconditionally!
Don’t worry about who is in your circle, know who is in your corner! Start with you being in your own corner… have your own back first!
“Your biggest supporter is a stranger, Your biggest hater is someone you know.”- Heath Ledger
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