Are you selfish?
Definition of selfish
1: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others
2: arising from concern with one’s own welfare or advantage in disregard of others a selfish act
We equate being selfish as a negative because when we think of being selfish we think of the two definitions above. Most of us were taught to believe that being selfish is wrong and makes us a bad person.
What if we redefined selfish for the positive?
1: concerned and prioritizing oneself; seeking or concentrating on one’s betterment, pleasure, health, and fitness out of love and regard for others so that we may lead by example providing motivation for others to be and do their very best so that they too can do the same for others.
2: arising from concern for the welfare and advantage of others by taking care of one’s own welfare understanding that we cannot be for others if we are first for ourselves.
There is a reason why when flying safety instructions include placing the oxygen on you first and then help those around you.
If you do not take care of you… how the hell can you really take care of anyone else?
You see, when we redefine what it means to be selfish than we fully understand being selfish doesn’t have to and actually is not a bad thing. I call it being selfish to be unselfish.
The most important areas for us to be selfish so that we can be unselfish include taking care of ones emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Many people who focus entirely on give, give, give… end up overwhelmed, fatigued, stressed, and in poor health and fitness.
We think we are being unselfish by giving, giving, giving; however, when we end up overwhelmed, fatigued, stressed, and in poor health and fitness…
We are not only disregarding ourselves, we are disregarding those we love;
We are not only ignoring any personal advantage, we are not creating advantages for those we love;
We are not only ignoring our own welfare; by ignoring our welfare we are teaching those we love to do the same!
If you truly want to be an unselfish person, then be an example and mentor for those you love, care, and want the best for.
People mirror what what we do, not what we say!
What example are you providing to those you love, care about, and want the best for?
Do you want those you love, care for, and want the best for to have optimal health and fitness?
Now its time to get real!
Looking in the mirror with clear lenses meaning being brutally honest with oneself, how would you rate your leadership from a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being no room for improvement and 1 being all the room in the world for improvement) when it comes to…
⁃ Your health and fueling your body with nutritional dense healthy non processed foods to fight and perhaps even prevent disease, illness, viruses, pandemics, and infections. Not to mention benefits nutrition has in managing mental illnesses.
⁃ Your fitness and muscle percentage to fat percentage for tight and toned bodies that keep your bone density strong, weight healthy, and metabolism strong.
⁃ Your mental health to keep stress low, blood pressure healthy, emotions between the lines, and mindset positive. This even includes self esteem.
⁃ Your sexual health- an important part of romantic relationship/ marriage and a truly healthy and fit lifestyle. If you could make an improvement here what would it be? How are you doing on taking care of your sexual organs?
⁃ Your relationship health?
⁃ Your spiritual health?
⁃ Your work life balance?
What lie or bullshit excuse/ reason are you feeding yourself for accepting average or below average health and fitness?
Are you ready to put the oxygen mask on you first, so that you can then assist all those you love and care about do the same?
I am here to help!
One BadAss BITCH 