“I thought that I was just like suppose to feel like I was going to pass out at the end of a show- or in the middle of it.
I thought that was how it was.
Now I realize- No- if you eat food, have energy, and get stronger- you can do all these shows and not feel it.
A really good realization!”
“There is always some standard of beauty that you are not meeting because if you are thin enough you do not have that ass everyone wants but if you have enough weight on you to have that ass your stomach is not flat enough.
It’s all just fucking impossible”
Words from Taylor Swift in her Netflix Documentary.
So the Alex Pilson had to fly back to Atlanta yesterday to bring home his car. Home to #ILoveStPete
I decided to watch the Taylor Swift documentary. She is a phenomenal talent without question- a true talent. And I do like documentary’s.
What an amazing documentary for so many reasons! We already really know her rise to fame. We already know she is super talented.
The documentary was so much more than a documentary about a fabulous talent and her rise to fame. In fact, it did not have much to do about her rise to fame at all.
To me, it reminded me that we all have insecurities. Even those you would expect to have none! We all can be hurt by words and negative judgement.
I wrote a blog about “she everything I am insecure about” lyrics from one of my favorite songs. Sometimes words that hurt are not even words directed at one at all. Sometimes the words that hurt are comments and words directed at others… about how beautiful or perfect someone else is or how perfect a part of their physique is or how flawless their skin is which then causes one to look in the mirror to compare and when they do not feel they compare or are made to not feel like they compare because perhaps those words have never been said about them they believe they are less special because they are not that beautiful or perfect or drop dead gorgeous or that talented or __? We, mostly woman, start to dissect our own bodies and compare. It is never a winning comparison because we are most critical on ourselves.
Why do I say mostly woman? There is a difference in the sexes here. Both have insecurities for sure. Women just tend to not take action or use words that causes their man to feel any less than any other man in a room. Men are not as considerate. Don’t think most men could handle their own behaviors if their partner mirrored it… woman are strong as fuck!
Remember, the pic I shared with how woman see themselves compared to how men see themselves.
We are our worst critics!
AND what I loved most about this portion of the documentary with her discussing her health is that she has created rules to protect her self confidence, her self esteem, and her health and fitness.
Aside from abusive situations, we own our #selfesteem #selfconfidence and we build it and protect it by practicing #selfcare #selflove
I have written how words of hurt and negative judgement- people picking you apart especially your body stems from jealously. I strongly believe that and the evidence mounts heavy in that being very much a true statement.
It is what I believe from my own past behaviors and from what I witness, and what I experience personally.
They do not feel like they can compete; therefore, they make themselves feel better by knocking the person who has what they want.
Confidence beings seek to find out what you are doing, to learn, and better themselves.
Everyone’s goal should simply be to be in their best health, best fitness, and build their best body ever. Can you have bodies you admire- 100%- and we all have different genetics. And unless you spend 24/7 with that person and have access to all surgery records do you know what it has taken them to reach their goal? NO!
Knowing that truth on where harsh words and judgement stems does not mean words do not hurt. That judgment does not hurt.
We all have to learn to ignore it and understand the place that it comes from for our own mental health. They say keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Those that judge harshly I tend to show more love to… because their words, their judgement no longer impacts my day. I understand the place it comes from and if I can help them out of that place we both will have huge wins.
I focused on the health and fitness segment of this documentary because that segment is so powerful and so much in alignment with blogs I have written on nutrition and how important it is to being truly healthy and fit.
I do not believe in diets or deprivation. They do not work and actually sustainable. They are not healthy!
There is so much more to listen for in the documentary and boil down to the importance of #selfcare #selflove and using your voice to take a stand for that you believe in.
Super powerful!
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