Happy Enough…

Happy Enough…

I just started watching Grace and Frankie, on Netflix. The series begins with two couples meeting for dinner. Grace played by the stunning @JaneFonda and Frankie played by the equally stunning @maryjeantomlin aka Lily Tomlinson, the two wives, are in thought that the dinner has been scheduled by their partners in hopes that their husbands, law partners for 20 plus years, are announcing their retirement.

Their husbands were not retiring. To their surprise, their husbands were announcing their romantic relationship and that they were each leaving their wives for each other.

One being their true and authentic self is an important aspect of mental health; and mental health is very important to one’s overall health and fitness.

It was the scene following between Grace and her husband, Robert, that fueled today’s blog!

In discussion with Grace, Robert asked Grace “Let’s be honest, were you ever really happy with me?” It is her response that grabbed my attention as I believe many, far too many, are living this very existence.

Her response “I was happy enough”

It got me thinking what does “Happy Enough” mean?

How is “Happy Enough” really different from being “unhappy” or “settling for average or below average”?

I am not sure there is much of a difference!

“Happy Enough” communicates to me that there is one or more areas in one’s life where they are actually very unhappy and are hiding their unhappiness!

How does one hide their unhappiness in one area with another?

This is easily done!

• Workaholic

• Gymaholic

• Foodaholic

• Shopaholic

• Golf-aholic

• Device-aholic- Social Media, You Tube

• Hiding in ones man cave

• Hiding in ones woman cave

The list is endless. We are brilliant at hiding and playing pretend! Brilliant at living “Happy Enough” existences.

The question is why are we so willing to compromise and be “Happy Enough”?

What is this compromise costing us? I mean, in addition, to one being truly happy?

I believe the answer is far more than we even know!

Take a moment for yourself, grab a notebook, and get in a quiet place.

Start by writing down the 7 areas that encompass true health and fitness.

1. Physical Health

2. Mental/ Emotional Health

3. Social Health

4. Sexual Health

5. Relationship Health

6. Spiritual Health

7. Intellectual Health

For each area, rate your current state using the following scale of 1 to 10. 10 being no room for, thought, space, desire, or dream of it being any better and 1 being you often think about, desire, and dream of what your ideal would be.

Be honest, really honest, and real with yourself! If it takes you 7 days to get real with each area than take 7 days.

Could your physical health be better?

Could your mental and emotional health be any better?

Could your social health be any better?

Could your sexual health be any better?

In an ideal world would you be wanting to have more sex?

Could your relationship health be any better?

Romantic?

Friendships?

Working?

Could your spiritual health be any better?

Could your intellectual health be any better?

Are you expanding your thinking?

Are you expanding your mind?

Are you learning based?

This exercise is about identifying our truth, where we have perhaps become complacent, and deciding to take action to develop each area for the betterment of ourselves; and therefore, for those in our life.

As much as we think we are hiding under “Happy Enough” what example are we setting for those we love?

We are teaching our Sons, our Daughters, and others to be “Happy Enough”. Is that what we want for them?

And truthfully, if we are “Happy Enough” do we honestly think our partners are Happy or also “Happy Enough”. What if two “Happy Enough’s” started working together on the 7 areas?

What if, just what if, we stopped hiding behind “Happy Enough” and took action to be, well actually, Happy?

Just in case you missed my blog on being selfish to be unselfish here you go…

https://onebadassbitchfitness.wordpress.com/2021/01/25/are-your-selfish/

I am here to help!

Unapologetically me!