Unapologetically Me…
I get it! I truly do!!
I get why some get so uncomfortable with discussing sex and sexual health.
First and foremost those of us raised in the south- the “bible belt” were brought up in households where you didn’t discuss sex. I wasn’t taught about the birds and bees. I think my Mom thought if we discussed it it would make my sister and I more likely to have premarital sex. And that was the ultimate sin! Not only would we be sinning against God- we would be disappointing her.
For the rest we were born and raised in a country that is overall prudish when it comes to sex and nudity. Men are studs for their sexual accomplishments and woman are whores.
A country where our leaders preach morality while they are shoving cigars up vaginas in the Oval Office and using their power to sexually assault woman.
I have often thought I was born in the wrong country:) I spoke in a previous post about being the child that turned my parents faces red often… that is because I have always been outspoken and open to discuss any topic. And I have no problem with nudity. The joke among my friends has always been you can’t just show up at my house because I need time to put clothes on.
Not having a problem with nudity doesn’t mean you will ever see my vagina and breast splashed across social media… and I will not apologize for showing the same amount of skin others also show in their beach pics. Ladies, Men just as easily find a woman sexy in their bikinis! And just as easily mentally envision what your vagina and breast look like. Should we all cover up in bags?
I have always been learning based; and quite honestly, a true nerd when it comes to subjects important to me. Meaning, I like to learn all there is to know about a subject, topic, process, etc that is important to me or someone in my life.
And, the reality is, we are born sexual beings!
Did God make a mistake in his creation? I don’t think so!
No greater proof of how God made us than in a young child who discovers something feels good and keeps doing it. One of my daughters who shall remain nameless unless she chooses to name herself discovered at the age of 3 that rubbing against her privates felt good. She did it often. I could have shamed her and scared her for life making her feel wrong and ashamed for exploring and feeling good in her body. That is not my belief and I wish that were no ones belief… and unfortunately, it is. Now, when she discovered that rubbing against a restaurant booth provided that same pleasure I had to teach her about public and private pleasures.
I am a sexual person as God made me; and yes, I, as surprising as this may be to the prudish at heart, I do have boundaries and respect laws.
I have always owned my sexuality and I wanted my daughters to have open communication with me and their doctors about sex and their sexual health. Sex is an important part of a partnership. I wanted my daughters to understand their bodies and what pleasures them so they could teach their partner how to please them so they could have a very fulfilling sex life.
I remember one of my daughters recently stated she has never faked an orgasm. She said “why would she ever teach a man something he does causes an orgasm so he keeps repeating what doesn’t cause her to orgasm versus him adjusting so she does”.
Now that is powerful! I wish I could say I have never faked an orgasm!
We have let men own their sexuality and stroked their egos with fake orgasms long enough.
Boy did I just get side tracked thinking about my Daughter’s strong and smart mind!
My point is this… I understand we all have different beliefs when it comes to nudity, sex, languages, religion, politics, privacy, etc.
Some are already open minded and there are others that get uncomfortable and blush with embarrassment on some of the topics I discuss or a pic I post in relationship.
“Change the way we look at things, the things we look at change”.
Who is to say I am right, you are wrong?
Who is to say you are right, and I am wrong?
What if, we took away any notion that one person has to be right and one person has to be wrong…
Can we simply explore medical and professional facts?
What if we join in on conversation that causes each of us to be more open minded and more understanding, we then grow mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually, etc. Would that be okay?
It doesn’t mean we have to change our beliefs or opinions. We just might be a little more loving, understanding, and supportive of others.
After all, we are all born in this world without opinion, judgement, shame, embarrassment, fear etc… and then programming starts. Our thoughts and beliefs are a result of our parents, grandparents, teachers, professors, co-workers, friends, and even religion (every religion teaches their interpretation of the Bible). Who determines which religion is right?
We don’t know what we don’t know until we learn it!
We don’t know what we are missing until we discover it!
I have learned and continue to learn so much from others. I intend to never close myself off from learning and expanding my mind to new possibilities.
My mission for One BadAss Bitch is to unleash and empower your most Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Confident and Hilarious (BITCH) self by sculpting the body you desire, the mindset to maintain it, and health to enjoy it for years to come.
The question is are you willing to remove judgement and be truly open minded to possibility that if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!
Let’s grow together!
Alexis
One BadAss BITCH 